Adele, this really resonates. That figuring out of what we actually want can be so hard because we have so little practice at asking that question of ourselves. I think there's a cultural element there and definitely can be a religious one too from my conversations with my clients - many of them resist even being allowed to ask the question because it feels selfish. But how freeing and empowering it can be to follow the trail of desire. Thank you for sharing so openly. I'm so glad you're finding a better rhythm.
Thanks, Fiona. There are so many reasons asking what we want can be hard, right? I started exploring some of the reasons but then felt that could be a post all its own. Certainly, from a religious perspective, if you’re taught that your heart is desperately wicked, that gets in the way of looking to desire for information. Gendering plays a role too. Women and people socialised female are particularly conditioned to put aside what they want in service of others. And there will always be others who jump at that service.
Adele, this really resonates. That figuring out of what we actually want can be so hard because we have so little practice at asking that question of ourselves. I think there's a cultural element there and definitely can be a religious one too from my conversations with my clients - many of them resist even being allowed to ask the question because it feels selfish. But how freeing and empowering it can be to follow the trail of desire. Thank you for sharing so openly. I'm so glad you're finding a better rhythm.
Thanks, Fiona. There are so many reasons asking what we want can be hard, right? I started exploring some of the reasons but then felt that could be a post all its own. Certainly, from a religious perspective, if you’re taught that your heart is desperately wicked, that gets in the way of looking to desire for information. Gendering plays a role too. Women and people socialised female are particularly conditioned to put aside what they want in service of others. And there will always be others who jump at that service.